Definition of Friendship

What Is Friendship?


friend·ship
   /ˈfrɛndʃɪp/ Show Spelled[frend-ship]
–noun
1.
the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship.
2.
a friendly relation or intimacy.
3.
friendly feeling or disposition.

Source: Dictionary.com


Friendship is the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring all right out just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and, with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away.

Source: xenodochy.org


I have 189 "friends" on FB and more on FS - people from high school, college, university, people I know during random situation (e.g. job interviews, friends of friends), people I've accepted for friends requests and the lists goes on.

Truthfully, I would say I would put a "friend" label to maybe 10 or less people out of 189 "friends" who will be there for me when I needed them. Most of the time I couldn't care less. It is just so happened when I was tagged for a wedding photo which I was not in. The wedding photo happened to be a "friend"/ roommate when I was in college. We weren't best friends. I thought we were friends at least at that time. She and my other roommate would mocked and sneered at me when I was going out with my classmates saying I've abandoned them for my classmates. Seems we drifted apart after college, when we went to different university. I try to keep in touch with her. Called her to ask how is she doing, and every time she would give excuses to not talk to me and she will call me later. Which she didn't.

I didn't think I was a bad roommate, well I hope not. After that, I stopped calling her thinking what a waste of money and time if I'm the only one making the effort.
I was bitter then, I think I'm still am

She and my other roommate "friend" requested in FS then later in FB. I've added them of course. She and the other girl kept sending messages saying they missed me, it's been far too long since we saw each other, and we should meet. Like hell I want to meet you guys. This is bitter-me thinking every time I read messages like goes like that.

I was a loner in high school and in college. I don't fit anywhere. Different opinions and interests, so I just doing my own thing back then. Most of them steer clear of me, some I knew came to me when they have problems. Apparently, I a good listener and gave good advices. If I charged every time for counseling sessions, I would probably be a billionaire now. Surprisingly, there are THAT many people need me to listen to them. And the funny thing is, quite a lot of them seems to missed me and would like to meet up for coffee or invite me to their wedding.How peculiar and annoying at the same time.

So back to the tagged-me-wedding-photo story, naturally I commented on why tagged me. Since obviously, I'm not in it and not so obviously thoughts like- are we friends? Really? Uh, since when? I thought I'm only somebody you know in college.

My other roommate in college commented back saying -You know for fun. Like most friends do in FB for wedding photos. And if you don't like it, you can remove the tag. =).

Something about the =) awaken the bitter-me inside. It just mocked me. I don't know. Then I said - Oh okay. I was just curious :). Blergh. Did I have to do that? Seriously, I felt I was acting like a 10 year old girl.

I wished there were 2 additional categories in facebook. Acquaintances and Random People (RP). It sure this categories would not applied to others, but it is sure will make bitter-me slightly less bitter and maybe a bit sweet.